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What to say during a meltdown
When someone is overwhelmed, fewer words can be kinder. Focus on safety and comfort rather than explanations.
Step 1
Try a short phrase: “I’m here.” “I’ll give you space.” “We can talk later.” Avoid promising safety if the situation is not safe.
Step 2
Lower noise and demands if you can. Ask before touching; some children want closeness and others need space. Do not insist on breathing or eye contact.
Step 3
Avoid “Why are you doing this?” or a lecture in the moment. Reasoning may be easier after everyone has settled.
Step 4
Later, ask gently what helped. If anyone is at immediate risk, seek urgent help.
Hearth offers wellbeing self-help, not medical care or a crisis service. These ideas are not an assessment and cannot predict what will work for your child.
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